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Mary's Story
I am currently enjoying my third marriage—fourteen years of joy. Third time's the charm, I say.
And yet, as the survivor of two previous divorces, I remember the acute pain I felt as each former marriage failed.
It is my fondest hope that I have learned something from the first two. Actually, I know that I have.
I am not the same partner to Don that I was to the previous husbands. He is a far different and an infinitely improved
husband to me. We have both grown and learned from our past marriages.
My previous husband and I had been together, off and on, for seventeen years. I met him when I was twenty and he was
twenty-five. We went through college together, through his political stance as a draft evader during the Vietnam war,
through the jail time he served as punishment for his beliefs. Together we passionately searched for spiritual
enlightenment in ashrams and consciousness groups. We heard every guru and teacher; we learned every meditation technique. We
lived together through the fervor of the seventies and the disillusionment of the eighties. Our marriage reflected
both the passion and challenges of the times.
We grew up together, and when the marriage blew apart during the Harmonic Convergence of 1987, I thought I would die of sadness.
The pain was so great, that I feared it would turn to hatred—of my ex and even towards men in general.
I felt the hardening in my heart, and it terrified me. So I embarked on the most intensive period of growth and healing I could create for
myself. I worked with therapists, healers, and took countless workshops to work on myself and heal my broken heart.
These were the layers of healing I gave myself.
And it worked.
 At long last, I began to feel that I was whole again, that I could trust and love again. I met a spiritual, wise, and
devastatingly handsome man named Don Kelly. The story of our coming home to each other is a dream come true. I had no
idea that love of this quality could exist. I give thanks every minute of every day for the beauty and joy I
am experiencing in this marriage.
Our love is the subject of my previous book, Finding Each Other, and our deep partnership fueled the teaching
and relationships workshops we gave together in the early nineties.
Today, thirteen years after meeting him, we are just as much in love as the first month. We share a thriving business—
living and working in paradise. Our life together is filled with joy.
The acute pain of the previous marriage made way for the happiness I feel today. I now hold all my earlier romantic
relationships as rehearsals, helping me to practice and get ready for the grand opening of my ultimate marriage. The layers
of learning created the shimmering pearl that is life with Don.
Your Story?
Do you know, or are you, someone who has taken a challenge
and transformed it into a pearl? If so, please send me your
story! It might be posted here online, and I might include
it in a new book I am editing.
Stories can be up to 500 words. Please include your name, address and phone, as well as your email address.
Email your stories to: PathofthePearl@aol.com
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